After I was trying to make new friends here with full of energy and time, I got something that makes me very disappointed and depressed. Apparently, it’s not the great friendship, it is the prejudice. I was too naive and ignorant to make the decision to know more local friends here and I was ever so expecting to obtain something new and different among the communities. Almost every time I was well behaved or I showed my knowledge and experiences, I was always getting this question from the surrounding: “Kommst du aus Japan? (It means do you come from Japan?) Or sometimes they told you unbelievable directly their experiences about Japanese food or Japanese culture without the previous question. You can hardly believe, how I was feeling at that situation, firstly surprised, then pleased and last sad!
There is one story I have to tell. It happened actually on a Japanese girl in my former German language school who was learning with me together in the same class. She was one of my best Japanese friends. She came to Germany for a long holiday for about one year and I was so lucky to know her in our language school. I must say, we really had a very good time not only in learning but also in traveling. At last she had to leave Germany for her home, so I came to the Airport to say goodbye to her. Of course she has already several friends there, a middle-aged German woman, who is her room hirer; a young Japanese girl and a young Japanese guy, who were both learning in my language school. I don’t know why the German woman was so excited and moved with tears in eye, especially when my friend was leaving. Until today I have no idea what has happened to them and what for a particular relationship between the two women, actually a young girl and an old women? Like a daughter and mother or other roles unusual? As I know, my Japanese friend has already boyfriend, so the case of other roles should be nonsense, at least in sex. Perhaps they are very very close friends, is that the reason? But just one year is enough to let the German woman cry for the leaving of my Japanese friend? It sounds really crazy, otherwise there is another explanation: she is too sensitive. Even it has some logics in certain sense, but how could a middle-aged women, who has a daughter in the high school, cried just for a room renter---a Japanese girl, just because of her leaving? Now take a consideration about my situation: I have lived in small room in a big house which is owned by my landlord---a 35 year old German woman over 16 months, and we are really very close friends. As a matter of fact, I had celebrated a lot of party in her house. Of course, I never forgot to invite her every time. A small party might not take much money, but it takes much time and energy for cooking Chinese food. On the day I was moving out, she was quite warm to say goodbye to me and I asked her for some help for transporting my new furniture. She really did later as a normal good friend and I was really appreciated for her favor, however, I noticed that she never really gave me a touching feeling. It seems that she did me some favors just in the way of manners as a hirer.
To be honest, she is the one and only good and best German friend of mine until now! At least it is the greatest comfort for me, since I tried different ways to learn new German friends with my own coins and seconds, which has been proved a great failure actually,
because most of them have very strong prejudice against me---a Chinese guy. So I have become smarter now and I never want to beg for their friendship or something, on the contrary, I have begun to look down upon them. Currently I’ve got dozen of American friends.
